家庭关系的英语作文(合集21篇作文范文供你参考)

家庭关系的英语作文 第1篇

婚姻家庭法律关系的特点主要包括：

1、主体的单一性和身份性

首先，公民是婚姻家庭法律关系的唯一主体。一般的民事法律关系主体，包括自然人、法人、其他**和作为特殊主体的国家。而在婚姻家庭法律关系中，主体只能是自然人而不能是其他。同时，一般民事领域中的“自然人”，不仅包括个体的公民，而且包括个体工商户、农村承包经营户和个人合伙，而婚姻家庭法领域中的自然人是严格意义上的个体公民，不能做任何扩大的解释。诚然，家庭是一种社会细胞**，但是，如果以家庭(或者是“户”)的形态作为主体从事民事法律行为的时候，它所介入的就只能是一般的民事法律关系，而不是婚姻家庭法律关系本身。

其次，婚姻家庭法律关系的主体是具有特殊身份的公民。在实际生活中，许多社会关系的主体也只能是公民个人，比如同事关系、同学关系、朋友关系等等。婚姻家庭关系是法律关系，不同于一般的社会关系，它的主体必须具有特定的亲属身份。继承法律关系也发生在具有特定亲属关系的公民之间。但是，继承行为是一种死因行为，而婚姻家庭关系的法律效力只及于生存的公民之间，因此婚姻家庭法只规定特定亲属之间享有遗产继承的**，实际上确立的是一种期待权;继承权的实现以及具体的继承规则则需由《继承法》专门加以规范。总之，婚姻家庭法律关系的主体只能是用法定的特殊纽带联结起来的自然人，这种纽带，一是结婚，二是生育，三是收养。所以，法律上的婚姻家庭关系是一种个体公民之间的法定的特殊身份关系。

需要说明的是，古代法律往往把家族的利益作为婚姻关系的基点，因此非常注重协调家族之间的关系，缔结婚姻关系的行为是一种家庭(家庭)行为而并非当事人的个人行为;体质或者**婚姻关系往往也以是否符合家庭(家族)利益为尺度。和古代法律不同，当代的婚姻家庭法律只调整亲属个体之间的关系，不调整亲属团体之间的关系。

2、人身关系的主导性

在婚姻家庭关系和财产关系中，人身关系具有主导地位。

从婚姻家庭关系发生的角度看，亲属关系的创设，绝不是为了追求直接的经济利益，与商品生产和交换具有完全不同的性质。结婚与**，生育与畜牧、收养与雇工都有原则的区别。我国法律充分尊重和维护婚姻家庭关系的本质。在****市场经济体制下，有商品市场、劳务市场和其他的服务性市场，但绝对不能开辟 “婚姻市场”、“亲属市场”，不能把婚姻家庭关系商业化。

从婚姻家庭关系的内容看，虽然它包括人身关系和财产关系两个方面，但是任何财产关系都派生于、服从于人身关系。没有特定的人身关系就不发生相应的财产关系，人身关系的变动导致财产关系的变动。婚姻家庭领域的财产关系往往具有“单务无偿”的特点，不具有“双务有偿性”，不适用等价有偿的原则。比如父母对子女的抚养义务和子女对父母的赡养义务，夫妻之间互相扶养的义务等等都是无条件的，不以索取经济上的回报为前提。

从婚姻家庭关系的**看，血缘关系是一种自然形成的关系，不能人为地加以**。即使父母子女之间发生冲突也不能宣告**亲关系，**也绝不受理自然血亲关系的**之诉。夫妻关系、收养关系是可以****的，但有关的财产分割以及经济上的帮助与补偿，都是这些关系**的后果，而不是它的前提。

3、鲜明的伦理性

以两性的结合与生命的繁衍为基本特征的婚姻家庭关系，是人类社会最古老，也是最恒久的社会关系;夫妻、父母子女、兄弟姐妹一直被视为而且今后也必将是人伦之本。与之相适应的婚姻家庭**，从本质上说是一种伦理实体。在法律对婚姻家庭关系加以调整的时候，绝对不能忽视它的以伦理组合为中心的基本特征。因此，任何时期的婚姻家庭法总是与当时占据**地位的道德观念和为社会所承认的道德规范紧密联系在一起：许多最基本的道德准则成为立法的根据，大量的道德规范被法律所肯定。这是调整其他社会关系的任何法律所无法比拟的。

诚然，婚姻家庭道德具有历史性，总是与一定的生产力发展水*、社会经济与****以及相应的生活方式相适应。正因为如此，许多古老的道德观念和道德规范已经陈旧落后，必定被新的时代所摒弃。同时，由于婚姻家庭基本性质的不可改变性和婚姻家庭观念的`可传承性，许多婚姻家庭道德也具有有民族性，成为优秀民族文化传统的一个有机组成部分。弘扬这些优秀的道德传统，赋予其与******相适应的新内涵，正是我国精神文明建设的一项重要任务，也是我国****婚姻家庭法制建设的一个重要方面。实际上，我国现行《婚姻法》不但充分体现了****婚姻家庭道德的要求，而且已经将许多道德规范法律化。

强调婚姻家庭法律关系具有鲜明的伦理性，并不是将法律与道德完全混同。婚姻家庭法毕竟是人们从事婚姻家庭行为最基本的准绳，而道德往往反映更高的境界，因此，不少道德准则是游离于法律之外的。同时，道德往往偏重于人们对自己行为的约束，而婚姻家庭法则更多地注意从国家的角度确认和保护人们在婚姻家庭生活中的基本**。因此，说婚姻家庭法律关系具有鲜明的伦理性，并不意味着婚姻家庭法的“伦理化”。

4、**义务的相对性和可转换性

婚姻家庭关系的构成，必须有两个以上互相依存的自然人主体。这些主体之间的身份关系具有特定性，绝对不可互易与替代。正是由于不同的身份决定了各自的**和义务，所以，婚姻家庭**不同于民法中其他的人身**。一般的人格权和身份权，比如姓名权、健康权、名誉权、荣誉权等等都是绝对权，而在婚姻家庭领域中，夫妻、父母子女、祖父母(外祖父母)和孙子女(外孙子女)、兄弟姐妹的身份都是相对存在的，基于这些相对存在的身份关系而发生的一切**都是相对权。这种相对性决定了设定和履行**义务时的互动性。在一组关系中，一方的**就是另一方义务，比如未成年子女有受抚养教育的**，他们的父母就有抚养教育未成年子女的义务;夫妻之间一方享有参加生产、劳动和社会活动的**权，另一方就有尊重这种**的义务。

同时，在特定的情形下，多数婚姻家庭财产**和义务都带有单向性，即一方只享有**而另一方只承担义务。这些**义务关系不是固定不变的，**人和义务人将会随着条件的变化而发生转换。比如，在抚养关系中，未成年子女是**人，他们的父母是义务人;而当子女成年以后形成的赡养关系中，父母成为**人而子女变成了义务人。再比如，夫妻一方可能因为特定的条件成为被扶养人，也可能因为条件的变化成为扶养人。

5、客体的特定性

婚姻家庭法中的多数规范都是当事人必须遵行的**规范，特别是在人身关系方面，**义务是法定的，相关的客体也是法定的。有关的身份法律行为和它们所指向的对象，即婚姻家庭生活中的人身利益，完全由法律严格加以规定，当事人没有任何选择的余地。在财产关系中，一方面，有相当多的**客体由法律明确限定，比如扶养人对被扶养人提供的必需的物质生活资料和其他扶养教育费用，不能低于实际的需求或者法定的标准。另一方面，夫妻财产关系具有一定的可选择性，但是一旦选定实行某种特定的财产制，其**客体的范围仍然是确定的。在我国，如果双方没有约定而实行法定的婚后所得共同制，对于共有的和个人所有的财产都必须遵循有关的法律规则，**正确行使**;如果双方作出了财产约定，则必须按照约定的内容确认**客体。

家庭关系英语作文3篇（扩展9）

——家庭关系左右孩子性格(一)份

家庭关系的英语作文 第2篇

Hello! This is my family,there three people in my family. My father,my mother and me. my mother is not tall but she has long black hair and black eyes；my father is tall, but he wears a glasses;and me have long hair too, at school, I wear my glasses father is a engineer;

I ‘m a student; ang my mother Previous hasn ‘t father likes sports very much, but he only watches them on TV. My mother likes go shopping. And me, I like reading books and play we like go to see so many movies: action movies, comedies, and dictionaries.

My father is so irritable, I ‘m so actlve , but I am very quiet when read mother at home doing housework，sometimes I help my mother do house work,and my father never done housework. I can do the dishes, wash the clothes, water flower, clean the room and cook like my mother very much, she is so quiet and tender. On Saterday, we often at home, sometimes we go to pick grapes or pick pich. My parents want me to focus on school, college. I want to go to the USA, but they don ‘t want.

家庭关系的英语作文 第3篇

**家庭与**社会相互依存，相互促进。实现**家庭是构建**社会的基础，构建**社会又为实现**家庭提供了保障。社会**离不开家庭**，家庭是社会的细胞，只有保证每个“细胞”都真正**了，社会整体才能健康发展、充满活力，促进**的目标才能最终实现，同时，构建**社会又为实现**家庭提供了重要保障，可以想象，没有一个**的社会，家庭**也不现实，覆巢之下，岂有完卵。

一、**社会的内涵理解

**，是指“配合得适当和匀称”，延伸广义是指是各种矛盾和关系配合协调，使之相生相长。社会是指“由一定的经济基础和上层建筑构成的整体，也叫社会形态”。所谓**社会，就是构成社会的各个部分、各种要素处于一种相互协调的状态。******社会，就是各方面利益关系得到有效的协调、社会管理体制不断创新和健全、稳定有序的社会。

具体地说，******社会是一个**法制、公*正义、诚信有爱、充满活力、安定有序、人与自然**相处的社会，是以人为本、科学发展、全面进步、富裕安全、稳定有序、充满活力、全体人民各尽所能、各得其所而又**相处的社会。实现社会**，建设美好社会，始终是人类孜孜以求和的一个社会理想。

二、**家庭的内涵理解

家庭是以婚姻为基础，以血缘关系为纽带，以社会道德和法律认可的社会生活的**形式，由世间关系最亲密、情感最深厚的人组成，是人类共同生活的基本单位。幸福**家庭是以家庭成员的全面发展为基础，以营造积极向上的家庭价值取向;***等、团结友善的家庭(邻里)人际关系;勤奋好学、艰苦奋斗的家庭创业氛围;遵纪守法、

家庭关系的英语作文 第4篇

I am the only child in my family, so my parents give me all the things. I am so gratitude, but I want to do something for them, I want to feel that I can be helpful. So I ask my parents what I can do for them, they are so happy. My mother asks me to help her with the housework and my father asks me to watch the football game with him.

我是家中的孩子，因此父母给予了我一切东西。我很感激，但是我想为他们做点事情，我想要感到自己也能帮上忙。因此我问父母我能为他们做什么，他们很高兴。妈妈叫我帮忙做家务，爸爸叫我和他一起看足球比赛。

家庭关系的英语作文 第5篇

Dad, good to me, my mother treat me super good, so I am a happy bird.

My father grows TeShuai. A pair of big eyes always turn around. Thick eyebrows, like a short black cloth. Your mouth wide, eating up pretty good. Body is tall and strong, often put me into the air.

My mother is very beautiful. Hair perm into strands. She has a small mouth and love nagging. Her eyesight is very good, it seems, how far can see. My mother’s animal sign is the dog, so her nose is very sensitive.

This is my warm and sweet home.

家庭关系的英语作文 第6篇

Good afternoon, everyone!

I’m Cheng Ying. I’m from Class 2, Grade 7. Now let me introduce my family to you.

There are three people in my family—my father, my mother and I.

My father is 40 years old. He is a teacher. I think he is a good teacher. Because he works very hard. He gets up very early every day and he works for more than 10 hours a day. So he is always busy, he looks very tired when he gets home. He likes reading newspapers.

My mother is 38 years old. She is a teacher, too. She works in a school. She is short and she has two big eyes. She loves me and she is good for me. She always buys some books for me. She wants me to be a top student. She cares for my diet and life.

I’ m 15 years old. I wear glasses. I like reading. I always read books after school. I like singing, too. My favorite singer is Han Hong. Her music is very nice. What do you think of her? I like making friends. If you want to meet me, please write to me.

Oh, my parents love me and I love them, too. My family is a happy family.

That’s all. Thank you!

家庭关系的英语作文 第7篇

I have a happy family. There are three people in my family, my father, mother and me. My father is a businessman. He is always busy with his work and he often goes to business trips. But when he is free, he stays with us. My mother is a worker. She works hard, too. She works hard to take care of our home. I love my parents.

我有一个幸福的家庭。有三个人在我的家庭，我的爸爸，妈妈和我。我的父亲是一个商人。他总是忙于他的工作，他经常去出差。但是，当他是**的，他留下和我们在一起。我的母亲是一名工人。她努力工作了。她工作努力，把我们家的照顾。 我爱我的父母。

家庭关系的英语作文 第8篇

I have a busy father and a kind mother.

My father is a businessman. He is 42 years old. He is short. He likes reading newspapers after meals. He watches TV in the evening. He goes to work by car. He has got a nice black car. He often plays golf with his friends on the weekend. He does not often eat dinner with us.

My mother is a housewife. She doesn’t work. She stays at home. She is beautiful. She has long hair. She does housework in the morning. She often goes shopping in the afternoon. She is kind, but she is strict to my study. She likes reading. She watches TV at night, too.

I love my parents. And they love me too.

我有一个忙碌的父亲和一个慈祥的母亲。

我父亲是个商人。他42岁。他个子矮他喜欢在饭后看报纸。他在晚上看电视。他开车去上班。他有一辆漂亮的黑色轿车。周末他经常和他的朋友们打高尔夫球。他不常和我们一起吃晚饭。

我的母亲是一位家庭主妇。她不工作。她呆在家里。她是美丽的。她有长头发。她早上做家务。她经常在下午去购物。她很善良，但她对我的学习很严格。她喜欢读书。她晚上看电视。

我爱我的父母。他们也爱我。

家庭关系的英语作文 第9篇

The cartoon reveals a very thought-provoking scene. The artist purposefully exaggerates…… . This picture reveals the in-depth problem of…… .

In fact,…… . There are two reasons for this. The first and perhaps most important is that…… . The other reason is more serious from a practical point of view.…… . It owes to…… .

In my point of view, the trend goes quite against the genuine and original purpose of our…… . What I want to emphasize by the above analysis is that,…… . Therefore,…… I strongly contend that…… .

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家庭关系的英语作文 第10篇

there are 4 members in my warm family, my father, my mother my grendmother and i. My father is a worker, he works hard every day and makes the decision of the family. My mother is a teacher, she has many students which a lot of them have great achievement. My grendmother only stays at home every day , And I am a student reading in XX school, I worked hard on my study, and I have many friends.

In my family, we love each other. We are living in a happy life.

家庭关系的英语作文 第11篇

My ideal family relationship my ideal family relationship is the relationship between me and my mother. I hope my father can join us and discuss my ideal with us. My father is an easygoing person.

We are like a pair of friends. I can be like a spoiled child, not now. He is just a non easygoing person and strict with my ideal father Pro, and the ideal family relationship.

中文翻译：

我理想的家庭关系我理想的家庭关系是我和我母亲的关系，我希望我父亲能加入我们，和我们一起讨论我的理想，我的父亲是一个随和的人，我们就像一对朋友我可以像一个被宠坏的孩子，而不是现在，他只是一个不随和的人，严格要求像父亲一样是我理想中的父亲，和理想的家庭关系。

家庭关系的英语作文 第12篇

This is my family. There are four people in my family. My grandmother, my father, my mother and me.

My grandmother has short white hair. She looks very nice. My father has short black hair and small eyes. He looks very fat, so I often call him “fat man”. He works at a factory. My mother works at a L.

. My mother has long black hair. She likes sports and traveling, so I often go on sports with my mother. On holidays my family often go to travel. I study at Guiyuan Primary School. We are very happy.

家庭关系的英语作文 第13篇

Know when to do what to do

My father worked hard at work and nearly fell asleep at 12:00 every night. He had already left the pillow at 5:30 in the morning. So those efforts were not in vain. I got 99% efficiency last year in my fathers class.

Love to sleep my dad lay in bed and slept on his head for a holiday, and as long as he wanted to sleep, he could sleep from 11:00 in the evening until 11:30 in the morning, and snored from time to time.

The mother of the acute son

Work my mother is a sub acute in sub acute, she works very fast. Sweep the floor mopping the floor, washing dishes. No matter what She can fix in a few minutes.

To me mom is a more acute child for me. When you eat an egg, I hate to call me one. When I sweep the floor, I hate to have a few hands in my life…

The quiet and lively I

I was in the classroom is quiet, carefully listening to the teacher, said that when the shut up shut up. I in the class time is very lively to jump to jump rubber band. Cattle, mora…

How warm the family is!

家庭关系的英语作文 第14篇

some industry insiders claim, _china which used to be a state on two wheels will some day be a state on four wheels._ with the level of life raised, more families will prefer to buy cars. cars provide speed, comfort and convenience in getting around. as the product of modern civilization, cars are likely to play a vital part in daily activities of , cars, like anything else, have more than one face to families in china. lets have a closer look at the present situation. we may find that though some people can afford them, crowded streets, limited parking lots (停车场) and costly maintenance (保养)are headaches to private car drivers.

although private car drivers have some troubles, driving a car indicates the trend of modern living. with low ta, sufficient highway development and parking lots, cars are bound to be household vehicles with high performance. then private cars will enjoy more popularity.

家庭关系的英语作文 第15篇

My home is a total of five people, my grandma, grandpa, father, mother and me.

My grandma and grandpa had retired, they are covered with wrinkles on his forehead, and grandmas eyes is not good, almost cant see without his glasses, grandpas ears back, spoke to sometimes make a joke, but they always hard at home, they often do the housework at home, as long as they live in our home, the home is very clean. The table is wiped clean, the window is wiped to wipe again…

Dad working in the labor bureau, work hard, but some lazy at home, for example, when you get up in the morning, he almost every time is late, sleepy.

Mother in the telecommunication bureau work, not very lazy is not very hard-working, as long as grandma and grandpa here, she is not very love to do things, but grandma and grandpa out that she is very hard-working.

I, is a student of grade three, grades can also, in the home work done just have a look at the books, mom and dad old said I, but Ive changed a lot. Mom and dad sometimes also praised me.

This is my home, a happy family!

家庭关系的英语作文 第16篇

然而，对于这些评价，金志国毫不犹豫地否定了：我是一个细腻的人。他这一自我评价并不是凭空捏造，很多人都可以作为证人，尤其是他的家庭成员。金志国说：如果和我们生活长了，就会知道我是外在很粗内在很细的人。

金志国家曾经让人想象不到的贫穷，他的父母都是孤儿，从农村流浪到青岛。来青岛后父亲去学徒，母亲到农村捡菜叶。一家人租了一个四合院的一个门洞，上面打了吊铺，金志国说：这个吊铺就是我们的家。

那段记忆是痛苦的.，其中，有一件事金志国到现在依旧念念不忘：有一年除夕，因为母亲在菜市场工作，越到过年菜市场越忙，所以很晚才回来。回家后，母亲就把她套棉袄的蓝布褂子脱下来洗，因为第二天就是春节，要洗干净了。怕褂子不能在第二天干，就把褂子包在烟筒上。第二天早晨起来的时候那件衣服糊了，袖子上有一个大洞。金志国一再说母亲的哭声和她的眼神，“那种眼神叫我永远忘不了”。

到现在金志国给母亲买衣服一买就是几件，买年货一堆一堆的买。他哪怕是无意听的或者是母亲无意当中说出一件需求来，金志国都会在第一时间满足。

从社会角色上的变化来讲，金志国和爱人差距很大，但金志国依然自豪地说他们能保持共同语言，而且，这个家庭经营的不错。上班时，金志国扮演的是总裁这一角色，一回到家，他就把西装脱掉变成丈夫的角色。“有的时候你可能在她不舒服的时候要扮演父亲，给她父爱；当你不舒服的时候你要当儿子，吸取她的一种母爱；有的时候你要当哥哥，保护你的妹妹，给她一种安全。”这些都是角色的转变，但最关键的一点是——“你不能在家里当总裁”。

他的独生女曾经给他写信说：我最不喜欢别人在你的面前说这是金总的女儿，金总的千金。女儿最讨厌就是别人用这种口气来说话。

面对这样一个自信的女儿，金志国于是“抠门”了。

女儿大学毕业之后，金志国“断了她的口粮”。在这一问题上，金志国曾经和爱人说过：她应该自己去创造，而且不能用我的资源。

现在女儿出国留学了，金志国怀念的是每次放假回来女儿都要约他去看场电影，而女儿不在他从来不看电影。

上次，两人从《英雄》聊到了管理：作为士兵，是手中有剑心无剑，就像最普通的员工；作为中层要心中有剑手无剑，就是制造方案；作为总裁，要心中无剑手也无剑。

看来，父女俩在一起的时候，不单单是看了个热闹。

家庭关系的英语作文 第17篇

There are three people in my family, my parents and I. We live happily together. Every morning, mother makes breakfast for us. Sometimes, it’s my father’s job. And then, father drives mother and me to school. My mother is an English teacher in my school. We have lunch and dinner at home. Sometime, my father eats outside, but he would call and tell us advanced. My family is a traditional Chinese family. Father is the backbone and mother takes care of our daily lives. I don’t have to worry about anything and all I have to do is working hard on my study. I have a happy family.

我的家有三口人，我和我的爸爸妈妈，我们幸福地生活在一起。每天清晨，妈妈为我们做早餐，有的时候，这也是爸爸的任务。之后，爸爸开车送我和妈妈去学校。妈妈是我学校的一名英语老师。我们回家吃午饭和晚餐。有的时候爸爸会在外面吃饭，但是他会提前打电话通知我们。我家是传统的中国家庭，爸爸是家里的主心骨，妈妈照顾家里的日常起居。我不用担心任何事情，只要努力学习就好了。我有一个幸福的家。

家庭关系的英语作文 第18篇

It is on March 27, 20xx, I just got home from school, my mom told me, mom and dad play hide and seek with me for a while. I said: _too good, mom and dad play hide and seek with me!_

After a while, dad to my bedroom, let’s rock, scissors, cloth, decide who to catch. _Stone scissors cloth, oh, too bad, how is my grasp!_ Father said, _that’s ok, maybe you just caught us?_ I think: _yeah, I might suddenly caught them?_ But I caught a very long time didn’t get mom and dad. I said: _mom and dad I’m hungry, I want to eat._ Mom _ceng_ jumped out from the closet, the original mother into the cupboard, the mother gets. _Yi? Mom came out, dad? He should also come out?_

Mother told me: _your dad hid in the bed, you go find him!_ So, I didn’t give dad to catch. Father said, _I used to hide and seek in the class is king, unexpectedly caught by you, it’s unbelievable!_ _That’s because mom told me where you are, so I have caught you._ I said, and I laughed.

家庭关系的英语作文 第19篇

My family is a happy family of three. _Yin_ sometimes _or_ dad, when there is love nagging mom. And I’m smart.

When dad Yin qing, volatile temper. Remember once, I have got the wrong number of money to sell, dad is very angry, severely criticized the I. I went back room holding his anger on a towel. Don’t to three minutes, dad is pestering me, didn’t angry. If actors have such power, he would be the exclusive river’s lake.

Mother is really annoying, want to listen to her everyday chatter over and over again. Nagging up at least five minutes, is too boring. _Quick drink._ _Lo you that ShouHei, quick wash._ In bed, _hat._ …… But, cannot hear the nagging, it’s still feel less what?

I am active in the class. Every day and Chen Ruge _dry ‘. Sometimes a small problem, I was flushed with her classmates. What problems, I will and team members to discuss, until there is no doubt.

家庭关系的英语作文 第20篇

The picture mirrors a common social phenomenon from a unique angle ― people tend to care more for the next generation than the previous one. On the one hand, young couplesdote on children, most of whom are the “only children”. Parents endeavor to prepare their kids for a bright future by raising them healthily. On the other hand, young couples fail to spend time with their old parents, and some of them are even too mean to provide the old with at least a decent living environment.

I think such a trend is quite abnormal and distressing. Filial duty used to be the most highly prized virtue among the Chinese for over two thousand years. Busy as people are, the duty should not be easily shirked. Supplying our old parents with material and emotional supports is not only a repayment to them, but can also set a good example to educate the youth.

家庭关系英语作文3篇（扩展7）

——婚姻家庭关系的基本准则实用1篇

家庭关系的英语作文 第21篇

阅读并非孩子天生就会的。必须经过后天的熏陶和培养，孩子才能真正走上阅读的道路。下面我们一起看看这篇《教育孩子，我选先难后易》。

先举个栗子。那是我教过一个学生，当时是六年级了，很多孩子抱怨作业多，功课压力大，而她成绩优异，学起来轻松自如。她上学从来都是轻装上阵，从未见她背过像龟壳一般的书包。她的课本作业本全都放在学校的柜子里，作业统统在学校完成，即使哪天有没有完成的作业，也都是少量的，放学回家时小书包里只有一两本书和一个水壶，轻松愉快好像是去郊游。课外班呢，只有一个英语班。在小学四年级的时候就已经写出了一本书《M之女》，情节曲折，故事美好，扣人心弦。并非自费出书，而是正式出版，每年她都能收到出版社给的版权费。或许你会说这个孩子是天才吧，错了，并没有什么天才，只是因为她的父母是爱读书的人，她幸运地生在了一个书香家庭。据妈妈介绍，在她幼年的时候，经常看到爸爸妈妈伏案读书、写作，在她的幼年记忆中，读书这个举动已经深入骨髓，成为了家常便饭一样正常的事情。她也有幸成长为了一个爱读书的孩子。阅读给她带来的优势绝对不仅仅表现在写作出书上，更让很多家长羡慕的是，到了初中，当然是高手如云的重点中学，她仍然名列前某，轻轻松松拿下年级第二名的佳绩。不仅学**轻松，她做人方面也非常成功，在班里是相当受欢迎的人物，幽默风趣，口才了得，经常能用语言化解一些小争执；对人性有深度思考和认识，但对每个人都*和坦诚，从不会得罪任何人，即使是很极品的同学。所以她朋友很多。

这是真实案例。目前她一边读书一边还在创作新的作品。或许这位小才女在很多家长的眼中只能被看做是“别人家的孩子”。但是在我十几年的教学生涯中教过的这类学生中并非少见。是否出书先不说，但是读书习惯好，爱读书会读书的孩子，学习都是非常轻松自在，为人处事都驾轻就熟，很少有心智不成熟的表现。尤其是到了小学高年级和初中以后，更加凸显出了这种能力在孩子身上留下的深深烙印。

那到底是什么让他们那么受到上帝的宠爱?

我觉得是阅读习惯为他们打开了一扇认识世界的门。让他们的心在阅读中得到滋养和润泽，让他们的人生变得更加丰富和坦荡。

在孩子上学的最初几年，家长的主要任务就是协助孩子培养ta的母语阅读习惯，只有母语阅读跟**，母语学好了，其他的各个学科才能跟随之齐头并进，并让孩子的头脑呈现**思考、善于分析等优良状态。记得笑来老师在一篇文章中提到，英语学习遇到了瓶颈无法突破，不要再从英语上找原因，到别处找一找钥匙，就会发现：原来本身ta的母语就没学好嘛，英语怎么可能精进呢。确实如此。母语的习得水*直接影响着英语、数学等等各科学习的习得水*。而母语的表达能力更加直接影响到其他各科，甚至以后走上工作岗位以后的各种表现。

在孩子读书最初的几年，想要培养他们的阅读习惯确实不容易。因为这个年龄是爱玩的年龄，是喜欢热闹的年龄，让他沉静下来，陷入书本描写的世界，不经历一番苦心孤诣怎么行呢。但是这份苦心千万不要让孩子感觉到，让孩子领会到的只应该是读书的快乐与成就感。苦心，由家长来承担就好了。先难后易，时间不会亏欠用心的家长。